Married Sex Blog

Sex Is Fun

There are lots of different kinds of sex. Fast Sex, Slow Sex, Romantic Sex, Wild Sex, or as one member from our forums put it "Wild, Monkey Sex" (I'm not entirely sure what that means, but it does sound fun.) I think sometimes we wait for the "perfect" time/setting/mood to have sex -- always looking for what I once heard described as "Cathedral Sex" --- the ultimate romantic, sexual, simultaneous orgasmic sex. But in so waiting for perfection I think we can miss some opportunities for great sex -- even if it isn't perfect.

There's something kind of special about having sex the third or fourth day in a row. When we have waited for the "perfect" time for sex we tend to be so ready for it that it is difficult to really take the time to enjoy each other.

When you aren't so desperate for sex, you have to opportunity for extended love-making. When you can really take your time with each other, you have the chance to find new ways to please and enjoy one another. You have the chance to explore and experiment. Not all the experiments will turn out great results, but sometimes they can be great for a laugh and that's fun too.

Bliss!

Bliss is a sexy computer game designed for a couple. It is compatible for both PC and Mac. On screen is a simulated board game. Each of the two players roll dice and move to squares. Squares are either undeveloped land that you can purchase and build a business on ala Monopoly or a set place (Lover's Lane, Broadway, Vortex, etc).

The real fun is in the action cards. On pretty much every turn a player is given an action card with something for them to do - Usually involving the other player in some way.

What do we love about this game? It is customizable! At the beginning of the game the husband and wife each tell the computer exactly what they are wearing and what "items" they have available to play with. The list is extensive--from pens and cameras to food items and toys! Throughout the game, the items you have listed and the clothes you are wearing are incorporated into your play.

Spouses also have the opportunity to fine tune their feelings (hot or not) on a scale of 0-9 of various sexual activities and topics. The game has a "passion meter" for each player, which is set at a minimum and potential maximum level at the beginning of the game. You also choose the speed of the game which effects how quickly the passion meters rise. The higher the meter the "hotter" the action.

Beginning passion level actions will include talking about your relationship in general and then talking about sex. As the heat rises, off come the clothes and hugging and kissing start. At the top levels players are instructed to perform specific sex acts or engage in other erotic activities.

We got this game several weeks ago and really like it. It is extremely well done and well written. The best part about it is that it is completely customizable. Not only can each player specify likes and dislikes (as well as at what passion level they'd need to be at before trying something), you can create your very own customized actions cards to play!

We highly recommend this game no matter what stage of marriage you are in, if you just need to talk more this game can help that happen. If you want to broaden your horizon of sexual activity this game will do that to.

We are also excited to recommend this product because in conversations with the developer it is clear that they have a deep commitment to marriage.

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Spice up your marital life and rave up sex with your hubby

Interesting article, but I'm always happy to report on "mainstream" media encouraging women to have sex with their husbands!

"No time to sex with your hubby. What are you talking about? Well I know that next argument would be where is the time for sex with your hubby? Now come on. The best advantage of sex with your hubby would be that it would spice up your marital life and it would be like rave party."

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I Just Can't Get Enough

My wife and I have been married well over ten years now. We estimated the other day that at a minimum, a very conservative estimate would be that we've had sex well over a thousand times. Probably more in the 1200-1400 range.

After the initial "honeymoon phase" we settled into a fairly routine once or twice a week mode - - taking off every fourth week or so with occasional bursts to maybe three or four times a week. More recently, as we began to talk more openly about our marriage and our expectations both in and out of the bedroom, we're having sex four to five times a week.

The sex we used to have was good, but pretty vanilla. As our communication has improved our sex life has become much more exciting, pleasurable and fulfilling. We're trying new things and talking about what we like and don't like.

I'm finding new ways to keep my wife interested. My favorite thing to do is make sure she has no excuse not to have sex with me. Many times wives are too tired for sex because of taking care of the kids, doing laundry, cooking dinner, etc. So sometimes I'll take the initiative and try and do everything I can think of to make sure there is no reason for her not to have sex.

You may have read before that sex makes you want sex. The more sex you have, the more sex you want. This is very true. The more great sex I have with my wife, the more I want her. I notice how sexy she is now more than I ever have. When we're together I can't take my eyes off her. Even if we just had sex the night before, the next day I want her again. The good thing is, she doesn't seem to mind.

There is a myth that sex with the same person becomes stale and boring. I guess it can get that way if you let it, but I remain firmly convinced that the more you commit yourself to having great sex with the person you decided to marry the better your chances of having great sex for your entire life.

"Don't Cha Wish Your Husband Was Hot Like Mine"

I found another reason to have more sex.

It all started with a late night at work. I came home stressed from the normal work day and made a flying pass though my house. I changed clothes, fed the kids, and snapped impatiently at my husband and kids. Then it was off again to a late work commitment.

When I returned home later, I opened the door to my home and thought, "What happened to my house?" It was CLEAN! No dishes in the sink, no toys abandoned in the floor, and a candle burned cheerfully on the stove. My husband had the children bathed and all but our youngest tucked in bed. I snuggled up on bed with my toddler and husband, and felt the last of the stress drift away. My husband told me he'd take care of tucking in our son, and that I should just go take a bath. I had a few more items on my to-do list for the evening, though, such as packing lunches for the next day, so I headed for the kitchen instead of the bathroom.

My husband soon followed me to the kitchen and took over lunch-box duty, shooing me off to take a bath.

There in my bathroom, my final surprise awaited. Candles, scented hot water, and romantic music greeted me. See what kind of man I have?

So what does this have to do with having more sex, you ask? Probably not what you think. You see, I shared this story with my co-workers the next day, and every single one had the same reaction--"Guess we know what HE wanted!" (nudge, nudge, wink, wink)

But you know what? That's not why he did it.

And how am I so confident? Because I was a sure thing. He' have "gotten some" anyway. My husband did not have to go to all of that effort and pamper me like he did to get sex. We have sex on a regular basis. If you have read any of our other articles, you know we operate under the assumption that sex WILL happen unless we jointly decide it won't. So my husband is freed from the trap that seems to await all husbands. If they try to be romantic, we assume they "want something." If they don't try to be romantic, we wish they did and feel less inclined to have sex--possibly even withholding sex as a punishment.

Satisfying and frequent sex (frequent enough the partner with the highest sex drive feels satisfied) frees us from assuming ulterior motives on the part of our mates. This generally applies to women who assume men have ulterior motives for every romantic gesture on their part.

So my newest reason for more frequent sex? Trust. And a confidence in my husband's love that other women don't seem to share.

New Polls

We have two new polls posted. One for Wives and One for Husbands. Vote and let's see who wants it more . . .

Priority Sex

A lot of factors go into great married sex. We talk a lot here about having great sex as married couples. We try to make it clear that having a great marriage is the key to having great sex. While lingerie, technique, positions, toys, variety, etc. can really enhance married sex, if a solid marital foundation isn't present, nothing else can help and all attempts will fail.

Trying out the latest moves from Men's Health to "Drive Her Wild In Bed" won't work if she doesn't want to be there with you in the first place. All of the tips from RedBook won't help if he feels belittled by cutting comments.

That being said, we find that marital sex is a really good barometer of how healthy a marriage is. If couples are truly satisfied with the quantity and quality of their sex life, they probably have a pretty good marriage. It's like an engine that is running on all cylindars. It's powerful, it's smooth and it gets you where you want to go.

The interesting thing is if, as a couple, you decide to make great sex a priority in your marriage and have a good discussion about what that is and how to get there, it can actually lead to improvement in all areas of your marriage.

Too often husbands misinterepret the idea of honoring their wives and the practical suggestions on how to do that (helping with housework, kids, laundry, etc) as a "tit-for-tat" arrangement (pun recognized but not necessarily intended). Since they did a little housework they expect immediate results in the bed room.

Sometimes wives have similar misconceptions and will even try to use sex as a reward for their husband's "good behavior". Neither is healthy. It results in treating your spouse like a child or a pet rather than a person you value and treasure.

Making Sex a priority in your marriage has a tendancy to keep you both focused on having a great marriage. It begins to sink in that you can't have great sex without having a great marriage.

This works best when you are working together as a couple. That means you need to talk about it. It means different things to Husbands and Wives. Primarily out of different motiviations. Husbands may want to work on better relationship as a step toward better sex. Wives may work on better sex as a step toward better relationship.

You have to make great sex a priority. It will benefit all areas of your marriage. Sometimes starting the discussion is the hard part. You might try sending your spouse a link to this site.

Conquer Bedroom Obstacles

Citing Men's Health, this article identifies common irritations that can cause an otherwise promising evening of marital bliss to go off-track.

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