Your Husband Can't Keep His Hands Off You? GOOD!

I can't keep my hands off my wife. In my mind, every little inch of her hot, sexy body is just irresistable. I want to touch, hold, stroke, caress, grab and grope every chance I get. And she lets me! Now, I know that not every time I come up behind her and slide my hands around her waist (and/or up her blouse), and kiss her neck that it sweeps her away in waves of ecstacy. Sometimes, she's busy or just isn't interested in being groped right then. But it's a quick pleasure that I enjoy -- a little connection-enhancer when I touch her in a way that she would never let anybody else.

I suppose there are some wives out there that aren't so gracious. A wife may slap her husband's hands away, tell him an exasperated, "No!" or in some other way reject his advances. In doing so, these wives are causing more damage to their marriages than they probably know.

Rejection is something that your husband doesn't deal with well. The married grope is more than a cheap feel, it is a "quick connect" -- the physical equivalent of a short phone call to say "I love you" in the middle of a hectic day. To reject it is to reject him.

It is also an opportunity for you, as a wife, to teach your husband about you and what does and doesn't turn you on. Is he touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable at this time and place? Let the touch linger just a bit and then whisper in his ear, "I'd really like it if you touched me here instead," and then move his hands.

Or maybe he does it right. Perhaps he slid his hand under your shirt and across your bare stomach and gently cupped your right breast in a way that took your breath away. Take his other hand and place in on your left breast letting him know, "You forgot this one . . ."

Are you just too busy with the dishes or other chores? Stop what you're doing for just a bit and say, "That feels great. How about you help me get this finished and then you can try and make me feel even better."

The grope is your invitation to a conversation with your husband about how and when you like to be touched. It can also be your chance to invite him into helping out more.

If it goes well, don't forget to provide him lots of positive reinforcement. Let's say the grope lead to him helping you finish the laundry and then you make good on your promise. Thank him for helping and tell him that his help getting the laundry done lead to having the time for sex.

The grope isn't always an attempt to initiate sex. Enjoy it for the simple act that it is. If it IS an attempt to initiate sex and now just isn't the time for you, tell him that the touch still feels good (or employ the first suggestion above to teach him how to touch you) and make a date for sex later at a more convenient time.

Keeping a positive attitude toward your Husband will go a long way. See his advances as opportunities to teach him about you and as the positive connections they are.